Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Got the paperwork

ok, paperwork for the FET cycle showed up today (Tuesday). It says it must be back a minimum of one week before blood tests commence..but blood tests are starting this Saturday..so thats not going to happen. Mind you, last FET the paperwork went missing until a week after the transfer..so I guess theyre not sticklers for it!

 So Saturday is day 9 of my cycle..i usually O around day 13 or 14..but last cycle it was day 17!! I told my nurse, she says it happens sometimes, especially after all the hormones etc..but shes hopeful it was just a one time thing, she did include one extra blood test request form...so there's 4 of them..I get tested day 9, then day 11..then they decide the rest. If I do O late again, I wonder what they do as Id expect they will test day 13 and 15..i guess I just have to trust they know what theyre doing! I do know my RE will be in my town that week..so maybe if they need an extra one he will do it here for me. (I live 2 hours away from the clinic and they have a satelite clinic in my town every 2 months so we don't have to drive in. All paperwork is posted..but for our natural FET, we will have to drive to the city for the transfer. I hope thats makes sense)

 As for my weight loss I have lost 4.5kilos (about 10 pounds), so Im about halfway to my goal. So far its been good..The diet Im following is pretty much low GI with no starchy carbs. I have missed the  convenience of them (toast for breakfast, sandwich for lunch, potato or pasta in some form for dinner) but not missed it as much as I thought I would. I guess seeing the scales go down has helped! The diet plan allows me to have an indulgence meal once a week, so today I decided to have chicken soup with toast..it was nice..but hours later and OMG!! I am bloated like i have lost no weight at all and gassy..you know those horrible ones that you gag at yourself?? yeah, we know theyre bad when you can't stand them either. Well I have been knocking myself out with the stench all evening. Makes me wonder if I have a gluten problem. It totally makes me want to stick with no bread for a while! I am still hoping to be down about 9 kilos by the end of February.
 I know youre not supposed to diet when youre pregnant..but surely eating this way with lots of vegies, healthy fats and protein and not a lot of sugar and no startchy carbs can't be bad. I will certainly ask when i go in for my transfer! I can't believe its almost time. I can just feel that it will work and we will have a baby by the end of the year. I can't wait to be pregnant again!

Sunday, January 8, 2012

January already!!

Wowsers..its almost the middle of Jan already..which means only a month til the FET. I just messaged the nurse as I can't remember when i supposed to contact her for the blood tests. I thought about trying natural this month..but i think id prefer to concentrate on the weight loss and not worry about a growing baby yet.

 I'm on week 4 now of weight loss,..the first week i lost 2.4kgs, the second week nothing (christmas was in that week..so fair enough) the third week I lost 600gms..so ive lost 3 kgs in 3 weeks.

Im undecided if I should do accupuncture for the FET. Last time i didn't do it and I got pregnant..but i had been doing it for a year up to that point..I haven't had accupuncture since about June last year..decisions decisions.

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Merry Christmas!

Ive been hearing good news all around..so many long time infertility ladies are getting their BFP's..and a few sets of twins amongst them..woo hoo. Way to go ladies! May you all have happy healthy pregnancies!

On a sour note..OMG..yesterday I found my first grey hair!!!  yes yes, I am 40 and nearly everyone has them by now..but not me..i never had one..i tried pulling it out and the darn thing just curled up like a pube at the front of my head..arghh..had to cut it off..I guess Im officially old now..sigh..better order my walking frame and hearing aid.

Ive lost 2.4kgs in the first week of my diet. Pretty happy with that. I decided that for christmas day I am not on a  diet..i'll do what i like and then get back on plan tommorow.

Just got back from midnight mass..hubby is catholic, though we pretty much only ever go to midnight mass..i just do not understand catholicism..i cannot help but giggle at some of the weird things they do. Id love to learn why they do some of the things they do!

I hope everyone had a wonderful christmas day!

Monday, December 19, 2011

BD fest..that didn't happen!

Wow.its been a while since I blogged..Im amazed I could remember my password!

I haven't really had much to blog about with this being an infertility blog. Still don't, but Im going to anyway!

DH and I went on holiday for a week to the beach..we had intentions of it being a BD-fest as it was about right timewise..so we arrived on Tuesday night at about 7.30pm. Unpacked our stuff and decided we wanted fish & chips being by the sea..so went into town to find the one fish n chip shop closed..at 5pm. Not to worry, we knew there was another little town 5 mins drive away, so we went there..also closed at 5pm..so went to the next place 10 mins away..found a pizza/fish n chip place went in..sorry..they were not taking any new orders as they were closing...so we had chinese as it was the only place open..even the supermarket had already closed!!! So weird..we are used to places being open all hours I guess. So by the time we got back to our beach house we were exhausted by the day and just fell asleep. No BD

Wednesday we went hiking up a mountain as you do on a  relaxing holiday (thanks honey!!LOL) and went swimming in the sea, ate at an amazingly good restaurant and generally lazed about..and fell asleep early again. No BD

Thursday, got in a morning BD, played golf all day, went swimming in the sea again, fell asleep early.

 Friday went to a nearby island, played golf again (when I say played golf..i mean I had a go at a couple of Par 3's while DH did every hole on an 18 hole course..mostly I just walked with him) fell asleep early. No BD

Sat- friends who owned the beach house showed up so we were busy with them, went to bed late. No BD

Sun- went fishing, but I jammed my thumb in the car door and fainted twice from the agony of it..i have only just started to be able to use it 8 days later! DH got super bad sunburn while fishing (his feet swelled up like Hobbit feet and got huge blisters and he couldn't walk for 3 days) No BD

Monday came home..

So a full week and only one BD in all that..so sad..lol. I wasnt temping or using OPK's..so I have no idea when O was..but I expect it would be too late for the one time to be of any use.

So as Im not going to be preggers this month I decided to finally start an actual diet. I have been putting it off and putting if off thinking I could just do it myself..but I stood on the scales and they have gone up instead of down..so I knew it was time to just do it. So my starting weight was 79.4kgs. Im now on day 4 and today the scales said 76.5kgs this morning..almost 3kgs..about 7 pounds..half a stone! My goal has been set to be 70kgs by February..looks like I should be able to do it easily. yay.

 I am doing a frozen embryo transfer in Feb, so Im hoping weight loss will help that. When I got pregnant in August i felt so bloated and uncomfortable..I knew I needed to lose some before getting pregnant again. I wish Id have started right away. I could have done that 10kgs and a bit more by now..but I didn't and I have to just accept I didn't..but I can do it now! Wish me luck and will power!!

Saturday, November 19, 2011

owch

well, I just went to a farewell party for some good friends of ours..I was talking to a mutal friend who marvelled at how 5 years ago there were no kids amongst any of us..and now theres 11 kids under 4 in the group..owch

Saturday, November 5, 2011

How to have a good attitude in one easy lesson.

People often say to me I have such a good attitude about our infertility. Sure I have bad days where im miserable over it..but over the past almost 6 years of trying to have a baby..theres probably only been maybe 5 to 10 days of misery. And even then..only a couple of days of tears and sobbing. I remember them well..one was when we had our first miscarriage confirmed..the other was a few days after our second miscarriage..i'd say they were pretty understandable.

Most of the time..i have optimism..and hope..and joy..yes joy..it is a bit crazy..i don't pretend to really understand it..but i feel joy most days.

So how can I have such joy and happiness when i am being denied the one thing i truely want in life?

The answer is really simple..my attitude is the one thing I do have control over on this journey..I can't control much else..I can't make my ovaries produce eggs..i can't make the eggs that are there into great eggs..I can't make them fertilize with DH's sperm..I can't make any resulting embryos stick to my lining,  but I CAN have a good attitude. Its all about choice. I choose not to wallow in misery..I choose not to make fertile people feel guilty that they are fertile and I am not. I choose to be happy no matter what. That is something we all have a choice over. I don't like feeling miserable, I don't like feeling sad or jealous..so why waste my time feeling that way..those feelings don't change anything..feeling sad, miserable, jealous..none of them make any difference to the outcome..if my embryos are going to make us a baby, they will..whether i feel happy or sad. So I choose to be happy..I choose joy.

Sure, I do get pangs of envy when i hear about someone else gettng pregnant, Sure, I feel sad sometimes over our lost babies..but i refuse to stay that way..I refuse to bring everyone down around me..have 5 minutes of sad, then bring your mind back to joy..tell yourself its ok..you will get through it. You can push your mind to do amazing things..being happy is second nature to most of us. I tell myself there's always someone worse off..to be happy with what I do have.

 My Northern friends are heading towards their thanksgiving days..I try to be thankful every day..I have a wonderful husband, a great family, I'm healthy, all my friends and family are healthy. I have a great job, I have enough food (yeah..too much sometimes..) I live in a great country, I believe in a great God. My life is close to perfect..I don't think many people feel that way..but most should..most of us have a great life, but we get fixated on one aspect and feel we need more..for some thats money, for others its better paying jobs..some have terrible relationships with their family or spouses..some of us can't have babies. Sometimes I think we need to sit back and be satisfied with what we do have.

This has been a lot longer than i thought it would be..but hey..if i can help any of you with your own feelings, then that makes me happy. Remember to stop yourself when you hear your mind being negative..stop, think of what you do have..choose to be happy..its not only better for you, but its better for everyone around you.!

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

One check on my goal list! and other stories..

Yes..I have done it..i have learnt how to load new books onto my e reader! woo hoooo...i still haven't figured out how to send them from my computer..but i have a computer friend who will show me on Sunday..i can get online in the e reader though and load them from a website..so yay me!

Yesterday I bought some fabric to make a new handbag..ive never made one before, but have been thinking about it for ages..I am soo tired of bags i pay a lot of money for breaking at the handles or zippers..i just took one back last week that id only had 3 months..the zipper was coming off. grrr. Im also someone who likes to have things noone else has..I really hate it when i see other people wearing/carrying things i have. It takes the sparkle off it or something.

So this morning I was planning out a whole range of One of a Kind bags..thought up a name for my bag company. Im thinking I will have a website to sell them..i have no idea how to make one..but im sure i have enough friends who know how ..Oo im so excited about my new venture...all before ive even made my first one..lol. Stay tuned..i just have to remember to go pick up my sewing machine from mum's..ok..its her machine..but i steal it a lot..hee hee. (just googled the name..and naturally its taken..lol..back to the drawing board with that one)

Also yesterday, I jumped on the scales at the gym to see how i'm travelling..well..i joined the gym in July before my FET..in the months of August and Sept I was pregnant and didn't workout much..got back into it a couple of weeks ago and my new weight 3 months later?? exactly the same as my joining weight..lol..I had just drank a 600ml bottle of water during my workout..so i may have lost a little bit..i guess I could say I am back to my pre pregnancy weight. Lucky the weather is getting nicer, so I will be able to want to eat salads and lighter food.

Banana's have FINALLY arrived back in stores at a slightly more affordable price..back in February most of the banana crops in Australia were destroyed by floods..so what was left went stupid in price..before the floods they were around $2- $3 a kilo..but after the floods they went up to $19.95 a kilo..it worked out at about $5 per banana..naturally noone bought them and therefore they were not available for most of the year..they are back and priced at $7.95 a kilo..its still expensive..but i love them and have bought some..smoothies are not the same without a banana in em I say!

Ok, Im off to the gym..during my treadmill warm up I will try to think of a new name for my bag collections!